Visiting the 'sacred site' on the Auckland Harbour wharf where the Frogs bombed her is spooky, sad, but also liberating in a way that's hard to define. The fact that it affects you so much (as it does) perhaps means that your heart and mind are in the right place.

I haven't visited the site, and don't plan to, though I appreciate your calling it 'sacred'. I suppose if anything should be, that would qualify.

It would affect me even if I had no connection. However, I knew the crewmember who was killed, who lived with our family before the voyage. I also bear some responsibility for that boat being brought to the Pacific.

My heart and mind are far afield of the norms, I'm afraid.

Thanks for your comment....